I ended 2010 thinking about how I could strengthen my relationship with my children. I realized that I was them all the time, was always doing things for them, taking them to their events, cleaning up after them, and snuggling at bedtime, but that I was not really hanging out with them as much as I should be. A lot of the time, we were coexisting in the house and doing our own things… and me just spouting out directions and corrections. So.. I aim to BE with my children more.. enjoy them more… I could see how joyful they were (and me too!) when I sat down to play a board game with them… or if I talked to them at the kitchen table, not being on Facebook. I thought how 10 minutes a day, I would work on just being with them — no television, no computer, no folding laundry, no surfing the net, just be with them, talk to them, give them my full attention. Now, I have 3 children, so I didn’t think I could give up 10 minutes to them individually every day — there is math homework, spelling words to practice, dance, basketball, they do need clean underwear, and I do like to see what is happening with my Facebook friends!!! But, I hope that spending 10 minutes with them together, or with one of them, or two of them, will gradually increase to more minutes some days, and will allow me to really grasp them as people, enjoy them for their silly, loving, and yes, trying, kids they are.
I haven’t been able to follow the 10 minutes really closely as I had hoped, but I am working on it… I am more aware that my kids deserve my full attention, that they crave it, and that it will so, so beneficial for them and ME to do this. At bedtime last night, I talked with my girls about some friend-issues, and I was fully present…. yes, I was a bit anxious as it was past the magic bedtime hour, and I was tired, and I had dishes in the sink, but I laid back in bed with them, and chatted, full attention — it was fantastic, and I think that my oldest really appreciated it, and thought it was fantastic, too.
Wish me luck… 10 minutes…. I can do this right????
ON ANOTHER NOTE — I read at two daycares today… I have been reading at these for over a year now. It is really fun to see how they have grown since I started, how they don’t wiggle and pester each other as much when I am reading… how they really listen…..
I feel like a rock star when I arrive — KRIS!!!! Even a little cutie who isn’t very verbal yet, will toddle over to me and cry out “books! books!” when she sees me — it melts my heart, and it makes me feel proud knowing that I am helping to foster my love of reading, the importance of reading.
A book both sets of children giggled at, and listened intently to, today was “Are You are Horse?” by Andy Rash. Very cute…..